Dare to Self Improve

Possibly the most important aspect about the way you present yourself to other people, that determines whether or not you give off a good first impression, is social calibration. What is social calibration?

Social Calibration is knowing, or having a sense of the social comfort levels of each of the people you are interacting with. For example, if you approach a group of people and start a conversation, but one of them is a little stand-offish or aloof, you could: try and hit them with a few compliments, tease them, ignore them etc. There are any number of approaches, HOWEVER, someone who has good social calibration will not only be aware of the persons discomfort, but will have the right approach to difuse the situation.

Personally, I would tease the aforementioned person, then make a remark saying something like, “I bet your the type of person who is tough to get to know at first and doesn’t let a lot of people into their inner circle, but once you do, you’re incredibly loyal and would do anything for her friends.”

This not only justifies their behavior, but is also a subtle compliment that endears yourself to them.

But, Social Calibration covers a LOT of different things. I have a BETTER and more PERSONAL example that I’ll share tomorrow. Sneak Peak: Arun uses “social calibration” on his last date!

Trackback URI | Comments RSS