Dare to Self Improve

So what is the “meat” of social calibration? To me, it’s being able to escalate an interaction between someone(s) as quickly as possible while maintaining a natural state of comfort for everyone. This ranges from friends to, obviously, romantic interests.

You need to “calibrate” exactly where their comfort level is by every means other than actually asking them (as this would obviously cause discomfort). For example, you wouldn’t invite someone to your wedding after chatting with them in line at the super market. It would be weird and they obviously wouldn’t feel comfortable enough to go to your wedding. However, you could tell them about the awesome sale you heard about next door, and see if they want to join you in perusing the discounted items.

The key is, “feeling” out the comfort level of people around you, and escalating the intimacy of the interaction while maintaining comfort.

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